I was talking to a dear friend whose family and my family have known each for decades. The conversation was coming to a close when I asked her for her suggestion on a blog topic that I could use for a future post. Of course, I had to give her my parameters as well as my non-negotiables on topics that I wished to steer clear of. Without so much of a hesitation she admonished me for the previous comment and told me that there was no such thing as “off limits” when it comes to topics to be addressed; especially in a blog. As blunt as she was, I knew that there was truth to what she was saying. However, I also know that somethings must be tread on softly or not all. Nevertheless, she did give me a few suggestions that I thought that I would give a shot. Though of all the suggestions that she gave me, the one that I thought would be must fitting was one that I refer to as The True Order of Man.
So, let me give a quick back story on the woman that I mentioned in the previous paragraph. Her and I share a 15-year-old son together. While we are not an item we both vowed that we would make sure to raise our son to be a phenomenal man. So far, and with the help of The Most High, he is well on his way to being just that. But I would be remiss if I did not say that I did not make things the easiest throughout the years. To be honest, there were times when I knew I was not being the best father for my son. While I was providing financially, my absence for whatever reasons, was tearing my relationship with my son apart. I am grateful today that we have moved on from that time; thanks to forgiveness from my son and grace and mercy from The Most High. I also have to give a ton of thanks to his mother for not bashing me in front of our son and giving me every opportunity for redemption. Yet, I noticed that this seems to be the pattern for a lot of men who look like me. Which leads into my blog topic.
It wasn’t until later in my life that I was able to embrace, that which I already knew to be the blueprint, to help with the burdens of life. And while I won’t get into the spiritual aspects or my spirituality in this post, I will say that a man has to have guidance from an authority, not of flesh blood, that is higher than himself in order to be the leader of his family and community. Without this phenom (whatever your spiritual preference is) things are destined to be filled with uncertainties and woes that can be lessened or avoided altogether. This recognition is vital in all aspect of life. Whether on the job, at home, on the road, or doing whatever day to day activities which involve interactions with other human beings. However, for this post, my focus is on the man and his ability to be the leader of both his home and his community. With this understanding it is my true belief that conditions in households and communities in areas where the lack of responsible men (physically, mentally, and most importantly spiritually) will improve conditions vastly. This is the True Order of Man. Of course these are just my thoughts, which are proving to be more than tried and true, but I would love to hear your take on this matter.